Are you feeling closed off, alone and unable to connect with your partner? Have the lines of communication been compromised and you have lost the emotional intimacy that bonded you together?
Do you get stuck in the same fights, feeling misunderstood, unloved and unseen? Is there infidelity or a lack of trust that prevents either of you to move forward? Has intimacy been lost because you don’t “feel” one another any longer? Have you become two roommates stuck together by convenience?
Is commitment or marriage too frightening for you?
Are you looking for guidance as you embark on a new relationship and “want to do things right” from the start? How can I help both of you move forward within your couple?
Most of the couples I see come to me with these issues:
- Emotional Intimacy/Sexual Intimacy
- PTSD/Trauma in one member of couple
- Immigration issues in one member of couple
- Attachment to caregiver issues in childhood manifesting in couple
- Lack of Communication
- Extended family/Family of origin issues
- Pre-marital Counseling
- Multi Cultural Issues/Interracial
- LGBT issues
- Divorce and Separation
- Parenting Issues/Lack of “teamwork”
- Long distance relationships
Couples therapy works
I will offer both of you a safe and supportive place to open the lines of effective communication and listening. I will hold the space and help you with these tools so that both your voices are heard. Often, the practice of open-heart exchange enhances a level of vulnerability, which will promote love, trust, affection and emotional intimacy. It will reduce resentment and aggressiveness.
We will explore emotions, reactions and behaviors that are woven in the relationship and that form the dynamic of your couple. We will address how to grow as individuals as we steady the relationship. Once the bond is back in place and the emotional intimacy re-created, sexual issues can resolve. It is then easier to make decisions together about some of the important issues of life like parenting and finances. Please look at My Tools to get familiar with how I work.